Why is conflict problematical?

Conflict is a natural process that may result from meeting of difference and from struggles for resources and/ or power. However, many people find conflict uncomfortable and the response to its presence may be one of denial or attack-defend rather than of constructive engagement. Conflict does not go away if ignored or denied - as long as its roots are intact, it will continue to grow and develop.  As time passes, more and more people may get drawn in and the original reason for the conflict may get buried or obscured as each person brings their own issues and perspectives into the mix. What results is one almighty mess!